Test of Marriage

We think of relationships lasting only during even times. "Irreconcilable differences" march hundreds of thousands of marriages into courts. When partners say they are not socially, structurally, or sexually compatible --- mental imbalance is always the origin of the problem. Open communication about their mental backgrounds and expectations can reconcile the relationship when both partners are ready.

The Power of One

Marriage subtly interconnects the couple, so that when one person adjusts his or her frequency, the other will benefit indirectly. For example, a partner consciously works or meditates on a particular aspect of self, and a positive adjustment spontaneously occurs in the partner.

It can be comfortable to view our partner as someone other than who he or she is. At times our happiness seems to hinge on the expectation that our partner needs to change. Kind support and prayers can clarify and invigorate the process. Any change that actually does occur is a blessing. How can we truly comprehend what our partner needs in order to grow or change? Practice appreciating your partner's admirable qualities. Remember God is the Doer. Universal Will is directing your marriage play. Trust that the Universe will take care of you, and It will.

Sacred Marriage

A Sacred Marriage is a given promise to a couple’s highest essence and to each other, unto the last breath, through time and space, come what may. When this sacred dimension is missing, marriage becomes a sexual, physical, and emotional contract for temporary convenience.

A Sacred Marriage Contract has the potential to take you beyond the Earthly Marriage Contract. Sacred Marriage is a "sacred space," where the couple fulfills their destiny through service, understanding, and inspiration, supporting each other and vibrating as ONE SOUL.

Yogi Bhajan says that marriage has the potential to be a carriage to take you to Infinity. Sacred marriage can offer amalgamation of two beings. If you put copper and zinc together, you'll end up with a new alloy - brass. It is neither copper nor zinc. In the institution of marriage, two people become totally intermingled. They lose their individual, defined selves, merging into a new “alloy,” socially recognized as a married couple.

Orbit Commitment

When we begin a relationship, our longing for each other holds us in a common orbit of frequency. As partners process life, it is easy for the orbits to diverge. Time together, without the pressure and responsibilities of daily life, allow a couple to return to a common orbit and frequency. Throughout life, a marriage continually needs to be nourished and harmonized.

“People feel that divorce is a way out when two people cannot live with each other. Why hang them together? But no divorce has ever solved the problem. Basically, divorce creates problems. If you divorce a man with 28 mistakes, and marry a man with 18 mistakes, you have only overcome 10. And then, after a couple of years of marriage, you'll find that the guy actually has 38.”

Yogi Bhajan, Women's Camp, New Mexico, 1976