Children are the Future Identities of Personalities
Yogi Bhajan, Women’s Camp, New Mexico 1991
We love and care for our children. Mostly we over care for them. One day these children have to walk on their own two feet. Your input will not be enough. Your wealth cannot provide them with life and your wisdom cannot save their future. Parents who do not treat children as future identities of personalities and do not give them the experience of values have done more harm to their children than good. I know you like your children. You want to protect them. You love them, but everybody is not you and everybody is not going to be you.
You first transform your own blood into milk. The child lives on that. Why can’t you do this for the rest of your life? Give your truth to the child rather than your emotions, feeling, security, fears, dramas and traumas.
What is the nucleus, the center, in life? What can keep you successful, happy and great? Your alertness. You cannot be alert if you are emotional, commotional, angry, depressed, over thinking or under thinking. When you are alert you are just you. Any other mood or mode of life shall not make you successful. Life will be full of pain. You are destroying your own life. There’s nothing between your destruction and you. Only your personal alertness can make your life for you and make your life serve you.
First you are alive. Second you want to find your identity. Then you want your own profession. Then you want your domain. You want your security. What can give you security in life?
YOUR STATUS
An identity has a reality and that reality is yours. Your identity and your reality is expressed by your status. American woman does not know what status is. Her status as a woman is a chick, a lesbian, a doormat. Woman without personal status does not have the right projection. You are either here to exploit or you are going to be exploited. The problem with your exploitation is that you can get pregnant. That’s why it’s very important for a woman to have a status.
In Canada, when I meet the premier, they call me Siri Singh Sahib, Chief Religious Administrative Authority for Sikhs of the Western Hemisphere. Canadians have great manners. They never say, “Hi, Yogiji. How are you?” In America people talk with first names because we are not yet a nation. We are only two hundred years old. We have no status. We are so messed up that we don’t even care for a status.
As a person, you don’t have a status. You have a profession, a territory, a domain, a usefulness. You can offer wealth and services and enjoyment. You can be part of a great family. You have great virtues. You have great value. But you don’t have a status because you have never learned what a status is.
Status states your absolute defined identity. It doesn’t need a further introduction. It is automatic. We never say everybody is a person. We say so and so is a doctor. We put a title before or afterwards. Why? We have never learned to have a status as a human being. We have never built a status without an objective. A status without objective is a reality of the soul. It is proportionate to enlightenment or attainment of the individual. ©KRI TEACHINGS 2 WWW.KUNDALINIWOMEN.ORG
Ordinary man becomes a Pope. Nobody cares what degree he has. Nobody cares if he is fat or thin. It all becomes status. Your status is the presence of you and your status says it all.
Bandelier Park has Indian ruins. You go there because it represents a status of your past. This Bandelier can attract people. You, who are a light of God, attract nothing but garbage. You attract sex, rapes, cheating and deceit. You are the pit of tragedy because you have not created status.
I am a living reminder of a status. The moment your bana (your attire) is a little off and you see me you go! When you are in bana, you wave to me. Why? Am I a boutique seller?
Woman in America has no status but as a chick. She is the most rough, abused individual I have ever seen. They want you to be pervert, loose, crazy. This society needs six million prostitutes added to the economy every year. It needs fifty percent divorce to run its economy. You long to be beautiful. Your longing is based on your grace. You want to be happy. You want to be worshipped. You want to be radiant. But you have not been trained to do a thing.
I taught the language of longing so that you can have your status to walk proudly. Walk tall as a woman. Walk as identified! Not as a chick.
COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR CHILDREN
Some people say angrily, “I can’t handle my children and you have thrust another one on me.” I’ll make other arrangements. They are very rude and neurotic. They do not talk to teenagers with a flexibility of life. They say roughly, “Tell me what you want!” Well, she knows what she wants and what she can do. You are the shelter, the anchor, the last. “Well, I am busy!” Busy with what? Your own child is talking to you.
Contain, maintain, elevate and give hope to that child. Betray your child and God shall betray you in every breath. You get a baby sitter and have fun. You don’t give them values or the science of those values. You do not tell them how they can flourish and how they can grow. Yet tomorrow you expect them to be all knowing.
When a child comes to you, God is walking to you. Talk gracefully. Talk respectfully. Talk elevating. Talk divinely. Talk precisely. Talk in a real way. Talk truthfully. That’s all God is about. Otherwise there is not God.
THE TEST OF LIFE
We are tested with every breath of life. God sends someone younger, poorer, smaller who needs us. If you cannot see God in all, you cannot see God at all. There shall be no second chance. God is forgiving. Mother Nature is not. If your nature is not accommodating, elevating, compassionate, kind, giving, reaching out, you have failed. The majority of the parents are failing with their own children. That’s extremely painful.